Q: I’m 18, a male, and in love with my intelligent and handsome male roommate. He’s unaware about this. Should I tell him about my feelings? I’m afraid of losing him and his respect.

A: If heterosexual men can control their urges over women, so can homosexuals toward other males.

Unless you are ultra careful, sooner or later he’ll know about your suppressed feelings. Your actions may be louder than your words.

If he’s not a gay like you, don’t tell him your feelings. His life plan surely doesn’t include a male life partner. Find another boarding house. Avoid all possible contact with him. This will help you focus on other things. Hone your hidden talents to keep you busy. Join clubs. Read good books. Above all ask God’s help.

Love is sometimes unreasonable, but don’t let it ruin your life. Instead let it work to your advantage.

Until now the “homosexuality” issue has yet to be resolved. But God has promised that if you commit yourself to Him and ask His forgiveness and determine to overcome your weakness, He will help you and accept you (1 Corinthians 6:11).