Q:

I work in Taiwan. My three sons are degree holder; two are already married.

Seven years ago my philandering husband for a leave in partner —- his own daughter (from an affair with his sis-in-law when he was single).

Last year he wrote asking for forgiveness and signified his intention to come back. Well, who cares? We’ve manage without him then, we can manage now. All we want is a peaceful life.

I don’t love my husband anymore. Neither do my sons. And I hate to go home and find him there. Should I transfer to another house? What if he harasses us should I deny his request? Should I file an annulment?

A:

As a single mother you’ve gone through a lot of heartaches and sacrifice. But you’ve made it through because of your guts and courage to go on despite the odds. I admire you for that.

Your letter show that you and your sons are not ready to take him back; that you love for him has died. Since you believed you can stand on your own feet. I wouldn’t argue with you on not having him back.

However it would do well if you forgive him. It is a healing process and it is a prerequisite to a peaceful life. Forgiving him does not necessary mean he’s welcome to come back.

Should you decide to transfer, it should be where he will find it difficult to disturb you. And you can always enlist the help of your barangay officials or the police should he cause a disturbance.

To file or not to file for annulment or legal separation of your marriage is yours to decide. Take an honest look to yourself and think many times before taking any step. Cross- examinations are never easy. They expose your private life unduly. Should you decide to go to court? I suggest that you find a capable lawyer who can advise you what to do.

God will sustain you if you cast your burden upon the Lord (Psalm 55:22) God be with you.